6 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU'RE ALONE


Have you ever been in one of those moods where you don't really know what's wrong but you just want to be alone? When you just don't want to be in a crowd and you just want to take a break.

With our society changing every single day, sometimes living in the city can be a hassle and a little overbearing. So it's no surprise that you would want to be alone sometimes and shut yourself from the rest of the world and all its troubles.

When I was still single and haven't met my better half, I am always out to party. I always long for loud music, the crowd and the alcohol since it helps me forget things for a while. I go to bars and hang out with friends on weekends.


However during the weeknights, I always have to drag myself to work. And I tell you, working as an account associate in a big telecommunication company in the US is no joke. Talking to customers and trying to meet your daily targets can be stressful. It drains all my energy just to get the job done.

And after a stressful week, here comes the weekend again.

But sometimes, I just want to forget my job or the parties I get to attend. I just want to stepped away from all of that and take some time just to be alone.

And being alone is never lonely. It actually provides you an opportunity to get to know yourself better, to treat yourself and be productive at the same time.

Here are a handful of things that I can recommend you do when you feel like taking a time off from the world.


GRAB A BOOK

Digging into a good book has always been a part me and it never failed to melt away stress. And reading can also be therapeutic  since all my worries just slips away when I lose myself in a great story.

When was the last time you read a book? You should pick up a good book that suits your personal preferences, sit back and relax. Reading can distract your mind off your troubles for a while. A good story also provides satisfaction and relax your mind.


TRAVEL

You don't really have to take a vacation. Just go somewhere you've never gone before. Try to discover new places to visit from time to time that gives you a sense of peace.

Travelling alone promotes self-discovery and stretches your comfort zone. It will allow you to make new friends, speak to strangers and experience new things which will make you realize how little you actually knew about the world.

You might want to check out 26 Places To Visit Around The World.

EAT ALL YOU WANT

Being alone will let you appreciate food more and you will end up eating things that are new to you. Be it street food or restaurant, you will have all the time to savor and enjoy the flavor of what you eat.

Dining alone will also allow you to experience more solitude  and have a moment to unwind and focus on just one thing - your meal.


WATCH A MOVIE

There's nothing wrong with a bit of alone time when watching a movie in the cinema. I am such a movie buff that I always catch movies alone sometimes. Just like reading, it will draw you away from worries and stress.

Besides when you are alone, you can see whatever movie you want and you'll almost never have trouble finding a seat.


MASSAGE THERAPY

After all the hard work, you don't really need to find a reason to treat yourself to a massage. And being alone gives you a chance to give your body the relaxation it needs. Though massage therapy can help you relax, you will be surprise that it can do much more than that.

It actually provides many befits such as increased circulation, relaxation of of injured and overused muscles, reduces muscle spasms and cramping, increased joint flexibility and help recover from strenuous workouts.

It also reduces anxiety, relieve tension headaches and helps you sleep better.


REDECORATE YOUR ROOM

However, you don't feel like going out and you just want to stay home, then redecorating your room would be a great idea to pass the time and be productive. Try changing your wallpaper or move your bed to the other side of the room.

Take your time to rearrannge your bedroom furnitures and make sure that it would be relaxing to encourage rest.


We live in a very hectic society. And taking a break sometimes is not necessarily a bad thing since it will give us a chance to get a better understanding of ourself.

26 PLACES TO VISIT AROUND THE WORLD


The world in which we live in has a lot of beautiful places to offer and it's up to you to push yourself out of your comfort zone and take time to really appreciate the wonder that surrounds you - either man-made or natural.

Imagine how great it would be to live a simple life in one of the water bungalows in Bora Bora, swim in the beaches in the Carribean or even spend the day rock climbing the limestone cliffs in Railay, Thailand.

So I decided to curate the best places you certainly have to visit when you travel the world. You better include these to your list of places you'll be visiting soon.

26 PLACES TO VISIT AROUND THE WORLD




Imagine yourself floating in the world’s largest rooftop Infinity Pool, gazing down on the glittering city-skyline from 57 levels above. You won’t find a more spectacular photo-taking spot anywhere in Singapore!

After your swim, stretch out to sunbathe on a luxurious poolside lounger, or relax in the shade of a palm tree. Sip on Champagne as you experience the unforgettable beauty of a sunset amidst the clouds.




Mù Cang Chải is a rural district (of Yen Bai province), in the northeastern Vietnam. in Mu Cang Chai there are many terraced fields (mainly for rice), creating amazing landscapes which stretch down the mountain sides.Wooden houses and guard boxes can be spotted between the terrace fields.

The rice terrace fields in La Pan Tan, Che Cu Nha and Ze Xu Phinh have been recognized as national landscapes by the Ministry of Culture, Sports and Tourism. There have been Yen Bai festival Mu Cang Chai rice terrace fields to attract more attention of domestic and international tourists about Mu Cang Chai.




Composed of large, white, sweeping dunes, at first glance Lençóis Maranhenses looks like an archetypal desert, but in fact it is not an actual one. Lying just outside the Amazon Basin, the region is subject to a regular rain season during the beginning of the year. The rains cause a peculiar phenomenon: fresh water collects in the valleys between sand dunes and is prevented from percolating down by a layer of impermeable rock which lies underneath the sand. The resulting blue, green and black "lagoons" are surrounded by the desert-like sand, and reach their fullest between July and September.

The lagoons have large numbers of fish that arrive when the lagoons are at their fullest after July, when they are interconnected to rivers such as the Rio Negro. One species of fish, the wolf fish or tiger fish (Hoplias malabaricus) stays dormant in the mud and moist areas after the majority of the
water has evaporated, re-emerging during the next rainy season.




Some of the emblematic icons of Provence - the lavender fields or the Mont Saint Vincent so often painted by Cézanne - are or seem specifically attached to this region, others including the olive trees,  the dry rocky coastline with its scented stunted pine trees,  the evening air filled with the chi-chi-chi of a thousand crickets, and even the villages and vineyards, are actually features that characterize large stretches of the Mediterranean coast and its hinterland, in both France and other countries.




Fangweng Restaurant is located in China, in Hubei Province, about 12km north of the city of Yichang, near Sanyou Cave, or “The Cave of the Three Travelers”. The restaurant is in the Happy Valley of the Xiling Gorge, an especially scenic stretch of cliffs, caves and park land located around the area where the Chang Jiang River flows into the Yangtze. The entrance to the Fangweng Restaurant is an uninspiring grey brick building, but at the far end of a narrow concrete bridge, the restaurant caves into the cliff, the floor hanging several hundred feet above the ground. From this end, customers can view the flowing water of Yangtze River. For the daredevils, a bungee jumping platform is nearby.




Zhangye's Danxia landscape has lots of precipitous red cliffs, most of which are several hundred meters high, and multicolored ridges of weathered strata, sometimes stretching to the horizon. These formations, sometimes smooth sometimes sharp, stand  out against the greens or grays of the plains , looking grand and magnificent, vigorous and virile.

Across the Danxia landscape zone, a kaleidoscope of numerous red rocky outcrops resemble weird and wonderful shapes like castles, cones, towers ; as well as humans, creatures, birds and beasts. Their peaks peeping through the mist and clouds, produce mirage-like scenery of fantastic mountains and pavilions.




In the north of the Greek Ionian island of Zakynthos at an area called Skinari you will find the magnificent Blue Caves. The Blue Caves are one of the islands most famous natural attractions and were discovered in 1897 by Antonio Komouto. The caves attract thousands of visitors each year and are located just below the lighthouse at Cape Skinari.

The caves owe there name to the blue waters inside them. Objects below the water appear to turn blue. This includes people who can enter the water inside the caves to swim.





As one of the Seven Natural Wonders of the World, the Great Barrier Reef holds a spot on every traveler's bucket list. Hugging the east coast of Queensland, Australia, the Great Barrier Reef extends from Cape York in the north all the way to Bundaberg in the south — a total of 1,250 miles. With roughly 3,000 coral reefs, 600 islands and 1,625 species of fish, the reef leaves its 1.6 million annual visitors enchanted.




It's hard to know which harvest is growing faster in this fertile and beautiful valley midway between Vancouver and Alberta: tourists or fruit. The 180km-long Okanagan Valley is home to orchards of peaches and apricots, and scores of excellent wineries whose vines spread across the terraced hills, soaking up some of Canada's sunniest weather. The valley has provided a summertime escape for generations of Canadians, who frolic in the string of lakes linking the Okanagan's towns.

Osoyoos, near the US border, is almost arid, but things become greener heading north. Central Kelowna is a fast-growing city that's a heady mix of lakeside beauty and fun.

In July and August the entire valley is as overburdened as a grapevine before harvest; the best times to visit are late spring and early fall when the crowds lessen. Snowy winters also make nearby Big White resort an attraction for skiers and snowboarders.




The City of Light draws millions of visitors every year with its unforgettable ambiance. Of course, the divine cuisine and vast art collections deserve some of the credit as well. The gentle River Seine rambles through the city, flanked by stately museums, centuries-old churches, and blocks of Rococo- and Neoclassic-design architecture, further enhanced by charming trees and glowing streetlamps. Peppering the Seine's cobbled walks and graceful bridges are impossibly chic Parisians, probably on their way to the market, cafe or cinema.

Containing world-class museums, fashion, cuisine, and an atmosphere all its own, Paris is also a city of "many splendors," as Ernest Hemingway recalled in his memoir, "A Moveable Feast." Visit the Centre Pompidou, enjoy gourmet pastries, shop couture on the Champs Élysées or hit the boutiques in Les Halles, take in the view atop the Eiffel Tower, or even plan a day trip to Versailles Palace. But don't miss out on the simple pleasure of meandering the marvelous arrondissements (districts).




Palawan Island Philippines is the largest island. The island is half desert, so still undeveloped. You can enjoy the jungle, mountains, and white beaches. Palawan Islandhas been rated by National Geographic Traveler magazine as best Southeast Asia region in 2007, and the 13th best island in the world! Isthe most biodiverse islands in the Philippines. Palawan is an archipelago with 1,780 islands on the western part. Due to amazing  landscapes and high bio-diversity, Palawan island is known as “The Last Ecological Frontier of the Philippines”.

The northern part is characterized by incredible clear waters, white beaches, and many  species of flora and fauna. Here at north there are most visited places like El Nido and Taytay, characterized by limestone cliffs and underwater with many species of tropical fish and coral, also are  present five species of endangered sea turtles. Jungle have about 100 different species of birds! So…this is a real amazing tropical destination to relax and enjoy yourself! If you like tropical islands maybe you also could like on of the most beautiful island in Cambodia, visit Koh Rong Island, still undeveloped, good place for snorkeling, scuba diving or a trekking into the jungle!





With nearly 5,000 acres worth of red, yellow and purple flower-bulb fields, Flevoland is Holland’s biggest flower-growing regions! The fields can be found in East and South Flevoland and, most importantly, theNoordoostpolder. Every year in spring, there is a spectacular ‘Flower-bulb route’ encompassing over 100km through nearly 2500 acres of flowering fields. The route has become the longest and most colourful route in Holland and even, according to National Geographic, one of the world’s ultimate road trips!




Once you step into the wisteria tunnel, you will be overwhelmed by the fresh sent and the beautiful scenery of numerous clusters of flowers lying on top of one another. Please come experience this grand sight which can only be seen in spring in Japan.

Wisteria is a plant that grows all over Japan and which has captivated Japanese people for a long time. The flower clusters hang down for the tip of the plant’s long vines and sway beautifully in the wind. Wisteria is so beloved that it even appears in Waka, a classic Japanese poem. At Kawachi Fujien in Kitakyushu City, Fukuoka Prefecture, you can enjoy the grand sight of these beautiful wisteria flowers.




Sand is probably the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about beach. However, this is not the case with the Panjin Red Beach in China, which is, actually, red, and not covered in sand at all. Such phenomena is caused by a type of sea weed Sueda. It starts growing during April and May, then stays green during the summer, but starts turning vividly red in autumn.

The Red Beach is located in the biggest wetland and reed marsh in the world, and actually hosts the most completed ecosystem that can be found: the area has become home to more than 260 kinds of birds and 399 kinds of wild animals. You can find the endangered Crown Cranes and Black Beaked Gulls there, which is why the area is even called “home of the cranes”.

In order to keep the whole ecosystem safe, the area was granted state-level protection back in 1988. Even though most of the Red Beach is closed to the public, there still is a  small section that’s open for tourists. We can assure you that the photos below are not an example of infrared photography, it’s just one of those places that are hard to believe really exist!




Myanmar (Burma) is perhaps the most devoutly Buddhist nation on earth, with a dizzying array of golden pagodas and ancient temples, perched in splendid isolation on hillsides and sandwiched between busy city streets.




Long before the European conquistadors took over these lands, Mount Roraima was considered a symbol of these regions, an “axis mundi”, an enormous tree within which all the vegetables and fruits of the world grow.

This mountain, surrounded by 400 meter (1,300 ft) tall cliffs was a place of mystery, myths and legends for the indigenous people that used to live here centuries ago.

Today this unusual looking mountain can be visited by anyone having the will to discover it. The ascend starts in the Pemón village of Paraitepui which can be reached via the town of Santa Elena.

Getting to Mount Roraima is possible by taking a plane to Santa Elena de Uairén airport. This is a town in Brazil, very close to the border.  From here on, you will see there are buses or shuttles that can get you close to the ascending point- the village of Paraitepui.



St. Basil's Cathedral in Moscow Kremlin Although it's known to everyone as St. Basil's, this legendary building is officially called "The Cathedral of the Intercession of the Virgin by the Moat". The popular alternative refers to Basil the Blessed, a Muscovite 'holy fool' who was buried on the site (in the Trinity Cathedral that once stood here) a few years before the present building was erected.

The Cathedral was ordered by Ivan the Terrible to mark the 1552 capture of Kazan from Mongol forces. It was completed in 1560. That's pretty much all the genuine history that's known about this celebrated landmark. There, however, scores of legends. Nothing is known about the builders, Barma and Postnik Yakovlev, except their names and the dubious legend that Ivan had them blinded so that they could not create anything to compare. Historians unanimously state that this is nothing but urban folklore.




Venice, the capital of northern Italy’s Veneto region, is built on more than 100 small islands in a lagoon in the Adriatic Sea. It has no roads, just canals – including the Grand Canal thoroughfare – lined with Renaissance and Gothic palaces. The central square, Piazza San Marco, contains St. Mark’s Basilica, which is tiled with Byzantine mosaics, and the Campanile bell tower offering views of the city’s red roofs.




Etretat is famous for its three natural arches and white chalk cliffs that tower high over the Atlantic Ocean. These natural wonders are freely accessible, as is the white pebble beach. Claude Monet and other Impressionists famously painted the arches and cliffs in the nineteenth century. An Arsène Lupin story was based here while Guy du Maupassant spent most of this childhood in the town. The old town center is fairly pretty too making Etretat a popular day-trip destination from other towns and sights in Normandy.




Point Reyes National Seashore is a 71,028-acre (287.44 km2) park preserve located on the Point Reyes Peninsula in Marin County, California, United States. As a national seashore, it is maintained by the US National Park Service as an important nature preserve. Some existing agricultural uses are allowed to continue within the park. Clem Miller, a US Congressman from Marin County wrote and introduced the bill for the establishment of Point Reyes National Seashore in 1962 to protect the peninsula from development which was proposed at the time for the slopes above Drake's Bay. All of the park's beaches were listed as the cleanest in the state in 2010.





Tuscany is a region in central Italy. Its capital, Florence, is home to some of the world’s most recognizable Renaissance art and architecture, including Michelangelo’s "David" statue, Botticelli’s works in the Uffizi Gallery and the Duomo basilica. Its diverse natural landscape encompasses the rugged Apennine Mountains, the island of Elba’s beaches on the Tyrrhenian Sea and Chianti’s olive groves and vineyards.




Ice hotels are temporary hotels present only during the winter period. One of those ice hotels is Sorrisniva Iglo Hotel in Alta, Norway. This hotel is being rebuilt regularly since 2000. It is 2000 square meters including 2 suites and it is decoated with numbers of ice sculptures and ice furnishing, and amazing lighting system to enhance the different ice crystals. Beside the bedrooms, Sorrisniva Igloo Hotel contains an ice chapel, ice gallery and ice bar in which the drinks are served in ice glasses.




High up in the shaded splendour of the Troodos Mountains we waited for Polis, the key keeper. From outside, with its dusty walls and closed shutters, the tiny Orthodox chapel gave nothing away. Inside, as Polis slid a heavy key into the lock and pushed open the door, it was a different story altogether.

Cyprus is famed for its painted churches and as we gazed at the colourful Byzantine frescoes we could see why. Built and decorated between the 11th and 16th Centuries, 10 churches have been named UNESCO World Heritage Sites and we spent a happy few hours viewing several religious tales depicted on the crumbling panels. These hidden treasures weren’t the only things to surprise us.

Sure, Cyprus has the gorgeous beaches, turquoise sea and 300-plus days of sunshine that holidaymakers adore. But it also packs in lots of historical sites for such a small isle. Ancient tombs, Roman mosaics, Greek mythology and a majestic mountain range deliver far more than just a Mediterranean beach break.




Kauai is an island in the Central Pacific, part of the Hawaiian archipelago. It's nicknamed "the Garden Isle" thanks to the tropical rainforest covering much of its surface. The dramatic cliffs and pinnacles of its Na Pali Coast have served as a backdrop for major Hollywood films, while 10-mile-long Waimea Canyon and the Nounou Trails traversing the Sleeping Giant mountain ridge are hiking destinations.





Cappadocia, a semi-arid region in central Turkey, is known for its distinctive “fairy chimneys,” tall, cone-shaped rock formations clustered in Monks Valley, Göreme and elsewhere. Other notables sites include Bronze Age homes carved into valley walls by troglodytes (cave dwellers) and later used as refuges by early Christians. The 100m-deep Ihlara Canyon houses numerous rock-face churches.




Thirty-five km outside of Munnar, India, the Kolukkumalai Tea Estate is built high atop the precipitous ridge that rises above the plains of Tamilnadu. At about 8,000 feet above sea level, this is the highest tea estate in the world. Known for its excellent, flavorsome teas, this estate is also known for its panoramic views and the for the rugged mountains that surround it.


So what are you waiting for? Pack your things and grab your passport. It's time to travel the world.

A FEW SONGS FOR YOUR PLAYLIST


"When you're happy, you enjoy the music. But when you're sad, you understand the lyrics."

Nowadays, people are really immersed with music. You'll see people wearing their earbuds and headphones wherever you go. You'll hear songs being played in restaurants, hotels, supermarkets and even on public transport.

I love music. I don't have a great voice but I do sing. I am nonetheless a certified bathroom singer. And listening to music is always one thing I always do everyday. I always play songs on Spotify or saved songs on my phone whenever I wake up, while preparing for the day, during travels or anytime that I feel like it (which is most of the time).

And a person like me who worries about a lot of things tend to listen to certain songs over and over not just because I can relate but because I understand the lyrics. And I always love listening to heartbreaking or depressing songs since they calm my mind and lift my soul thinking that those songs are made just for me.

Well, allow me to introduce you to some beautiful songs that I really love listening to.


If You Leave Me Now - Foxes

Give me a reason why you choose to always hurt my soul
I gave you everything, oh baby, please I have to know
Just answer me the question, are you gonna stay or go?
Stay or go?

This is the best part of the song for me. I fell in love with Foxes vocals on this song which is really great. Aside from that, I can feel the intense emotion she's feeling while she was singing it. Obviously, this song is about a relationship which is on the brink of possible break up which I can totally relate because of failed relationships that I had.


Who You Are - Jessie J

It's okay not to be okay
Sometimes it's hard, to follow your heart
Tears don't mean you're losing, everybody's bruising
Just be true to who you are

I really love this song since it reminds me that it's alright not to be perfect. It tells me that life isn't easy, that my heart will get broken and my mind will get confused. However no matter, I need to stay true to myself and that everything's going to be okay.


Change For Love - Little Sea

'Cause even when you're in pieces
You're still a masterpiece
And don't ever feel like you don't measure up

This is a great piece by Little Sea included on their With You, Without You album. When I first heard this song, I got hypnotized by the music itself. So I decided to check on the lyrics and I am hundred percent sure this song is almost about me. Haha. Sometimes dark thoughts keeps roaming inside my mind and I end up keeping them lock in my head. I do keep silent most of the times since everytime I try to explain my thoughts and feelings, I end up not being able to do so that makes it more complicated. But imagine having someone to see you perfectly when you don't even see it yourself.


Daylight - Boyce Avenue Cover

And when the daylight comes I'll have to go
But tonight I'm gonna hold you so close
Cause in the daylight we'll be on our own
But tonight I need to hold you so close

This is Maroon 5's song but Alejandro's acoustic cover of this is really great. One of the most heartbreaking song I heard. Imagine knowing it will be the last night you'll be together and you can't do nothing about it. 


You Make Me Happy - Caylin Cervetti

But I'll always love you (da da da dadum)
'Cause you make me happy (da da da dadum)
And I'll never leave you
'Cause you make me happy (da da da dadum)

Obviously, this is not a depressing song. It has a melody that really makes you feel happy. We are not perfect and we make mistakes, Imagine someone who'll choose to stay and love us despite all that.


I still have a lot of songs that I want to share with you but that's for a different post. You can consider listening to these songs and tell me your thoughts about them.

Life is a song that hasn't been completed yet. Remember that you're life is a masterpiece at work. You'll sing it just a little off key sometimes but you'll learn to sing it beautifully along the way.


STAY IN LOVE WITH YOUR PARANOID LOVER


No matter how much you love your significant other, worries and doubts will find their way to fill his/her mind. Even if you have a seemingly stable and loving relationship, anxieties and fears will still kick in from time to time. He/she can get paranoid even without a reason. This is very common when your partner had a tough relationship before or even because of unpleasant experiences.

It can get irritating but you have to understand that this is just normal when it comes to a relationship. But when paranoia has taken a strong hold, your partner will sometimes become irrational and unreasonable. Even if you try to be understanding of the situation, it can get on your nerves. This is when conflicts start to form and may lead to an unnecessary break-up.



Having a paranoid lover can be tough. Paranoia or anxiety can lead to misunderstandings and ruin your relationship. But if you truly love your partner, understanding is not enough. It takes time and a little adjustment to do the work.

Remember that a relationship is not always hugs and kisses or good times and laughter. It is not always happy. There will be a time that you’ll hit a boulder and keeping your relationship will be difficult. However, you can get through those not so happy moments together if you will only be supportive of each other.

And how are you going to handle it? 

Learn it from someone as myself who happens to have a paranoid personality.

You have to understand how difficult it is for your partner to be controlled by his/her own thoughts and emotions. You might not even notice it but he/she always tries to make up for it. With a fully understanding of his/her situation, you will be able to get to know your lover better and can work things out.



Say ‘I Love You’ every day. This might sound very simple to you but there’s more to it. Saying these words is as easy as counting one two three but these three words hold a great power. It can strengthen your connection and allow you to take the relationship to the next level. So never say it randomly. Say I love you because you want him/her to feel your love is real and not because you’re obliged to say it since you are together. And always remember to consider the right timing. Tell him/her ‘I love you’ at the right time or even when he/she is not expecting it and be sure to mean it. This will send a happy feeling of safety in your relationship.



Show understanding. Most of the times, your partner also feels guilty of doubting your intentions or feelings. Understand that it is hard not to be able to control your feelings and thoughts sometimes. When anxiety kicks in, worries become a part of his/her day and can’t help it. Negative thoughts start to float and linger in his/her mind. The mind will become  irrational and will be flooded with fear. It can really be irritating most of the times but he/she is as frustrated as you are with himself/herself. 

Showing understanding is very important since it provides a higher level of acceptance and acknowledgment that you exactly know what is going on. Sometimes he/she tries to mask what they feel but by trying to understand his/her situation, you are already showing compassion and lower your lover’s resistance to reasons. This will give you a chance to talk about it and provide assurance that you will always be there.

Having an anxiety or even a lower level of paranoia doesn’t just happen. There will always be a bucket of reasons why he/she feels that way. It can be because of unpleasant experiences, previous relationships that didn’t work out or even the feeling of rejection. Remember that he/she feels upset about the situation as well. Hold him/her against your chest and let them talk to you about what he/she is feeling and thinking. Let your over feel that you are always there to listen. Try to calm his/her mind by your words and always make sure that you mean what you say.



Prove your love. Telling your significant other you love him/her is one thing. But showing your partner you love him/her is a whole other thing. A simple kiss or a quick tight hug whenever you get to see each other is one. Hold his/her hands in public provides a higher level of security and your partner will surely feel safe about the standing of your relationship. Introduce your significant other to people in your life and show how proud you are. 

Also, learn to listen to your partner’s random burst of stories. It just means that they are comfortable with telling you things even if they’re not that important. Showing interest to what he/she is saying shows that you care.

Don’t give your partner any reasons to doubt your actions. Even the simplest burn his/her mind. Instead give your significant others a lot of reasons to believe and trust you.



Time. This is definitely one of the most important things that you can give to somebody. Giving your significant other a portion of your time is literally sharing a part of your life. This will help him/her realize and deeply understand how important he/she is to you. Being together will lower the risk of having to deal with worries and doubts.



Be Open. It means having an honest communication. Exchange stories of your daily activities and show real interest every time. And always be honest of what you say. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Better not hide things from your partner or even say even the simplest lie. This will cause him/her to doubt everything you say even if there’s a good reason why you hide things or lie. Just be who you are and be true your love. Tell him/her things that you’ve never told anyone and really trust that they’re going to keep it. This will also allow you to get to know each other better.

Talk about your dreams and the future. Share honest thoughts and opinions with each other and this will soften the boundary that your partner had created in fear of you hurting him. Verbally tell him/her that she belongs with you in the future and that you can’t imagine it without him/her by your side.



Surprises. It doesn’t really have to be big. A simple kiss or ‘I love you’ when your partner is not expecting it is already a surprise to him/her. This will make him/her feel special every time you do it. You can also have random dinner dates if both of you are free and the budget permits. Cook your partner’s favorite food sometimes or give something that he/she likes. Not all appreciate materials things so better understand that the most important thing about surprises is the thought.



Worries, fears, doubts and anxieties make your significant other paranoid about everything. Understand that your lover has no control of it even if your relationship is stable and great. It can turn him/her into an emotional wreck and can lower his/her self-esteem. 

You might not know it but there’s always a debate going on in his/her mind. It is painful, stressful and can be destructive so an effective communication is vital.



Just always show understanding of his/her situation. Tell your lover how much you love him/her and prove it through actions. Be open and honest as possible and always be supportive.



Remember that there are a lot of ways that you can do to strengthen the bond between the two of you and avoid conflicts. You don’t really have to search the internet. Just look into your heart and you’ll know the answer.

A loving relationship is one of the most important things that we can have and it is our choice to keep it.

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You might also want to read 5 Signs That Your Relationship Is Going To Last.